Racist is a direct word. It calls out reality in communities, institutions and people. It is not an easy word to use, as it elicits defense and denial. It is often proceeded by the words "I'm not" and the word "but" often follows. Racist is a noun referring to a person or people. It is also an adjective that modifies behavior. The racist person will often deny the racist behavior, which is itself racist. The behavior may also be modified by the adjectives subtle or blatant.
Three very elderly people walk by and they are talking about a man they knew. “He died young” someone comments. I smile, thinking of the perspective they hold. Was he 40, 50, more likely 60 or even 70. They slowly move away, taking space like only older groups of people moving in mass can. Shifting perspectives, slowing things down, these are aids in the therapy relationship. What is old becomes young, what was trauma becomes growth, chaos shifts to creativity. We each learn