Reflections by a Psychologist

Thoughts & Feelings

A Blog of 1 minute reads

January 6, 2021

January 6, 2021. As a nation we were shaken.

Podcast with Tricia

Tricia Stefankiewicz invited me to join her on a podcast about self care. It was wonderful to chat and join Tricia in her Eating...

Racist

Racist is a direct word. It calls out reality in communities, institutions and people. It is not an easy word to use, as it elicits...

Our Wish to Return to Normal

It is a lament, a feeling, a crossing of fingers. However the wish is made to return to normal after the experience of loss, sudden...

Staying Sane while Quarantined

f you and your family are quarantined because of illness, such as covid-19, there are ways to reduce your stress during this time.

Finding a Therapist by Deborah Turner

I would like to thank Deb Turner for allowing me to share her work. Dear Ms. Harriet, I’m in trouble. I mean, my life is fine. But,...

The secure couple

Resilient couples inspire me...they also forget how to use therapy

Self and others

The language of connection

Victimless

Sometimes there is no victim present in a trauma survivor. Someone may take the “others had it worse” approach or the “I got over it"...

Getting Unstuck

I hold my breath. Usually this indicates that I have asked for something, something that I suspect will be refused. It may be to change...

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